In all of our discussions about starting a family, or parenthood, or thinking of our future children’s names, one thing kept creeping into our conversation: our mutual desire to build our family through adoption. Both of us had seen the glory of God through the power of adoption, and both of us had felt a nudge in our heart and spirit to pursue it for our families. Now that we were together, and especially after we began to plan our life together as husband and wife, we began to dream about adoption together.
We wanted our family to be a mix of natural and adoptive children. That was our goal. Given our age, we actually started trying to conceive practically immediately after we got married. Month after month went by with no pregnancy. We began talking to our doctor and eventually entered into some fertility testing.
Then we got the news.
“All in all, you guys have a less than 1% chance of producing children.”
What does one even say to that? How do a husband and wife, whose greatest desire is to be a dad and mom, respond? Honestly, not well. We were initially hit with such deep sadness. Follow that up with real, burning anger.
As a husband, those words crushed me. I knew the desires of my own heart, and I also knew the deep longing in Lee’s heart to be a mom. Her dream in life is to be a mom. Lee’s desire to be a mom was one of the traits about her I was most attracted to. To hear that (naturally) we couldn’t make that happen.. well, again, I was crushed. It was really a deep feeling of powerlessness. There was nothing I could do as her husband to ease her pain. There was nothing I could do to ease my pain. There was nothing I could do to change the situation. As a man, who wants to fix things, to care for my wife- this was one of the worst feelings.
We were hurt and deeply disappointed. Our challenge? ENDURE. Endure, Endure, Endure. Just go through it. I’m grateful for the comfort and care of Jesus that meets us in our “enduring”. I’m thankful that though we are crushed, we are not destroyed.
In our enduring, hope started to root itself in our hearts. This plan that we had from the beginning, this plan to adopt, began to take hold. Over and over in my heart, I kept feeling, “The time is now.” Lee also began to hear those same words in her heart. Isn’t God amazing like that?
So we began to pray and seek counsel of trusted friends and family.
Long story short, here we are, saying Yes and Amen to God and his call on our life to adopt. We are so excited about the adventure ahead of us. We are so thankful for those of you who have helped us so far, and for those of you who will help us going forward. We will never be able to repay everyone for the gifts, prayers, and support we have received or will receive.
We would love to have you join us on this journey. We would love for you to pray for the birth mother and father of our future child. We would love for you pray for our future child. And if you would like to support us financially, you can go to either of these places here on our website to do so:
Thanks for loving us,
prayer focus: for all the other families who have heard or will hear the soul-tearing words “you have less than a 1% percent of naturally conceiving” – for the journeys, their hearts, their future.